It is so easy and common to compare ourselves with others and feel inadequate if we think we don’t measure up in some way. Children especially are affected by their peers and can often be jealous if they feel they are inferior to their peer. How can we as adults teach our children to not be “Green With Envy” and to not be jealous of their peers but to appreciate, cultivate and celebrate their own unique talents and abilities? Love yourself, be yourself and let yourself shine!
What is “Green with Envy”? “Green with Envy” is a saying that has been around for hundreds of years. The colorful term was quoted by Mark Twain when writing about jealousy and Shakespeare even used it in at least three of his works. ” It means to be full of desire for someone’s possessions or advantages; extremely covetous.” Dictionary.com
Teach your child to value himself/herself: Are kids going to be jealous of a peer at some point in their life? More than likely, yes. Maybe their friend has the coolest clothes, always gets better test scores, or has more friends. Whatever the reason may be, it is crucial that we teach our children to value themselves. The more your child appreciates his/her own unique abilities and has confidence, the easier it is to overcome feelings of jealousy. Help lift your child up by pointing out their strengths and although they may be different from a peer’s, that it is good to have differences.
Show your child how much you love him/her: The more a child feels loved and appreciated, the more likely they are to have high self-confidence and be less affected by what others have that they don’t. Be there for your child and listen to their concerns. Praise your child for their abilities and help them to feel good about themselves.
Keep thoughts positive: If your child starts to get caught in the comparison trap, try not to let them talk negatively about themselves but to keep their thoughts positive. Let your child know you are always there for them and that you are their comfort zone. Create experiences and family bonding which can help take the place of material things.
Be a good role model: We as parents need to set a good example 😉
I am a proud writer for North Fulton family life monthly magazine and this article is in the March 2019 issue!!!